Wedding Inventory--my a-ha moment!

What strengths will you bring to the marriage? What weaknesses? What strengths will your husband/wife bring to the marriage? What weaknesses? When you think of freedom in marriage, what does it mean to you? How will you and your husband/wife talk about money? How will you confront disagreements?

These and several other questions are what Steve and I sat down and answered last night.

Our priest gave us these questionnaires to fill out separately and then we were to sit down together to discuss our answers. In November we will discuss our answers with the priest. I was stressing out a little about the fact that Steve hadn't answered his questions yet (and I, of course, had done mine like 2 months ago). So, when he hadn't filled his out, this of course translated into GirlBrain as "you don't want to marry me...you don't want to talk about marriage...you hate me...you don't listen to me...wahh wahh wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!"---I hate being an irrational girl :-(

I think once I was able to say "look, I'm a woman and if you don't fill this out, it means you hate me" and really put it into perspective how important it was for me to just talk about MARRIAGE and not THE WEDDING, he really understood.

So he came home last night, sat down and just started filling it out. Then we sat, with no TV, no texting, no Words with Friends...no distractions....and discussed our answers.

I was so surprised at how similar our answers were. We both are aware of each other's weaknesses and also are aware at what each other's strengths are. We are aware of our own weaknesses that we know will be a challenge to our married life together but are also aware of what each of us brings to the table in the form of strengths so that we are confident we can overcome these challenges when they arise.

For the first time since we've been engaged, I think it actually hit us that we can do this---not plan a wedding from a thousand miles away (or so), but that we can be a good team together. We already are. But, most importantly, we are both ready for the next step...or as ready as you can be for the completely unexpected roller coaster that marriage is.

This was the moment when I realize that while I'm still feeling like 379 days is too freakin' long and this day will never get here, I can also feel the same feelings I've felt for the past 4 years---

I love this man. I love him with all of my heart and all of my being. I am so excited that he chose me to love and so excited to continue to build on our life together. I'm so excited to be his wife and so excited to have him as my husband.

...now if this calendar would cooperate....:-)